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Joshua, one of the sons of popular clergyman, Mike Bamiloye, has replied to a Nigerian lady who criticized his father for his message on women and marriage.
Pastor Bamiloye had taken to his Instagram page some days ago to express his fears for this generation and marriage. According to him, the present-day youths are not ready for marriage. He said that a lot of women are not ready for the work that marriage entails like cooking and taking care of their homes but are more concerned about the wedding day. Read here.
A Nigerian lady, Blessing Adesiyan, however, felt his post was unnecessary. According to her, the cleric’s messages are always directed to women and barely to men. She opined that women’s existence on earth shouldn’t be about them taking care of men and children.
She wrote;
‘’I am tired of a society that continues to push this narrative. Yesterday, Pastor Mike Bamiloye posted a long epistle of how women today are not prepared for marriage and he has this advise. 95% of the advice was for women while 5% was for men. We have women in this country that are overprepared for marriage. That was all we we heard all our lives. ‘Is this how you will behave in your husband’s house? Your husband’s house is a house of learning’. No one is telling men that they need to take care of their home and that they are the head of the family and that women are just helpers. If I am the helper, why am I the one doing all the work? If my role in the house is a helper, then it means the lion share is for the man. So why is it that we have a society that has placed the lion share of the burden of home on women who you claim are helpers? Suddenly men come into marriages and forget how to do anything. How did you exist before you met me? How is it that you were cooking and cleaning and running your own errands and suddenly you come into your own home, your most important organization, the place that you is yours and suddenly you cannot lift a finger? You are waiting on your wife to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner. She is the same person that is going to feed the children, go buy all the groceries, cook all the food, wash clothes, pay attention to what is happening in school and in your life and she is also the one that is to make herself available to you at your beck and call. We need to stop this mess. The church is the one furthering this nonsense.”
Reacting to her post, Joshua said his father has also shared messages admonishing married men to do better with their wives, He recounted how his father also made it a point of duty to ensure that he and his brothers learnt how to cook before marriage. He asked the lady to ‘’clear the rage off her eyes,” take the ‘’wisdom” in the message his father shared and move on.
Read his reaction below…
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